tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-155767112024-03-21T14:20:59.059-05:00Ramblings Of The Heart<b>COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS<BR><BR>DISCLAIMER: Any images that were used were said to be public domain where I got them. If an image is yours, show proof of ownership & it will be taken off.<BR>All written content is Copyright ©2005 by Countess Demetria unless otherwise stated.<BR>May Love Find Your Heart - Countess</B>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-31826191074777676312009-02-25T16:11:00.000-06:002009-02-25T16:11:02.823-06:00I Love You Carl!<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_t8zKhgVOFXt_UopsYQWkX4hc0w2f0wd8C-5SVXxRKyXy-aQGZZcSoYipsg7iTN96fstCW2UilDAdaxLvnyQuFi-ghoYJ0zSH-qjnzIfqd9zXNwrDXq63tsGdtDCTIaGheYRqbw/s1600-h/ILoveYouBabyGlitter2.gif"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_t8zKhgVOFXt_UopsYQWkX4hc0w2f0wd8C-5SVXxRKyXy-aQGZZcSoYipsg7iTN96fstCW2UilDAdaxLvnyQuFi-ghoYJ0zSH-qjnzIfqd9zXNwrDXq63tsGdtDCTIaGheYRqbw/s400/ILoveYouBabyGlitter2.gif" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5017241591612699570" border="0" /></a><br /><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><br /></span><span class="snippet"><span style="font-weight: bold;">I love thee, I love but thee,</span><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">With a love that shall not die,</span><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Till the sun grows cold,</span><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">And the stars grow old.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">~ by William Shakespeare ~</span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Love, Erin</span><br /><br /></span><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. 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SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1132963536167493702005-11-25T18:05:00.000-06:002005-11-25T18:23:49.480-06:00Oral Sex Causes Cancer?STOCKHOLM (AFP) - Certain cases of mouth cancer appear to be caused by a virus that can be contracted during oral sex, media reported, quoting a new Swedish study.<br /><br />People who contract a high-risk variety of the human papilloma virus, HPV, during oral sex are more likely to fall ill with mouth cancer, according to a study conducted at the Malmo University Faculty of Odontology in southern Sweden.<br /><br />"You should avoid having oral sex," dentist and researcher Kerstin Rosenquist, who headed the study, told Swedish news agency TT.<br />HPV is a wart virus that causes many cervical cancers, including endometrial cancer (in the uterus).<br /><br />Comparing 132 patients with mouth cancer with a control group of 320 healthy people, Rosenquist found that 36 percent of the cancer patients were carriers of HPV while only one percent of the control group had the virus.<br /><br />The main factors that contribute to mouth cancer, most commonly contracted by middle aged and older men, are smoking and drinking alcohol, scientists agree.<br /><br />"But in recent years the illness has been on the rise among young individuals and we don't know why. But one could speculate that this virus (HPV) is one of the factors," Rosenquist said.<br /><br />Her findings confirm other international studies in recent years.<br />~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<br /><br />I sure HOPE that isn't true!!<br /><br /><br />May Your Heart Find Love-<br />Countess<div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1132708658896273582005-11-22T19:17:00.000-06:002005-11-22T19:17:38.910-06:00Recipe For Forever<a href="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/1600/dzroses.gif"><img style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/320/dzroses.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br />Gather all of the ingredients together, So that they are close at hand!<br />Get a clean cloth and wipe the bowl clean of any lingering *dust* from the past.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Take MATURITY, RESPECT, and FRIENDSHIP, and stir gently.<br />Add unlimited amounts of COMPASSION and KINDNESS, And mix well.<br />To this, add CARING by the handfuls, and fold in TRUST.<br />Continue stirring gently, adding LISTENING, HONESTY, and large amounts of COMMUNICATION.<br />Slip in some DREAMS, GOALS, And firm pieces of KEEPING PROMISES.<br />Bake in a home filled with PEACE, BEAUTY, and SERENITY.<br />Before you taste the finished product, sprinkle liberally with PATIENCE, LOVE, and a touch of SPICE.<br />Serve very hot, with IMAGINATION on the side.<br /><br />Author Unknown<br /><br /><br />May Love Find Your Heart-<br />Countess<div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. 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SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1128478057864587402005-10-04T21:00:00.000-05:002005-10-04T22:05:13.143-05:00What Kind of Kisser Are You?<table cellspacing="0" cellpadding="2" width="350" align="center" border="0"><tbody><tr><td align="middle" style="color:#ce436e;"><span style="font-size:14;"><BR><b>You're a Romantic Kisser</b></span></td></tr><tr><td bgcolor="#ffdbe0"><center><img height="100" src="http://images.blogthings.com/whatkindofkisserareyouquiz/romantic.jpg" width="100" /></center><center><span style="color:#000000;"><br />For you, kissing is all about feeling the romance<br />You love to kiss under the stars or by the sea<br />The perfect kiss involves the perfect mood<br />It's pretty common for kisses to sweep you off your feet</span></center></td></tr></tbody></table><div align="center"><a href="http://www.blogthings.com/whatkindofkisserareyouquiz/">What Kind of Kisser Are You?</a></div><br /><br /><br /><span style="color:#ce436e;"><b>May Love Find Your Heart -<br />Countess</b></span><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. 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SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1128200356867875842005-10-01T15:58:00.000-05:002005-10-01T16:40:43.626-05:00Boobie-Thon starts Today!<BR><BR><p><br /><a href="http://www.boobiethon.com/"><img style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/320/bt2005banner.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><span style="color:#ce436e;"><b>October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month!</b></span><br /><span style="color:#ce436e;"><b><br />Today starts the Fourth Annual Blogger Boobie-Thon!<br />This is a great event to help raise money for the fight against Breast Cancer!<br /><br />Women submit pictures of your bare boobies, painted or creativly covered.<br /><br />Men they are taking pics of your Boobies too! Send in pics of your Pectorals.<br /><br />I didn't know this until I saw it on the site, but LOTS of men die from breast cancer too!<br /><br />Click on this link to read the article about Breast Cancer in Men! <a href="http://www.cancer.org/docroot/CRI/content/CRI_2_4_1X_What_are_the_key_statistics_for_male_breast_cancer_28.asp?sitearea=&level=">Male Breast Cancer</a>.<br /><br />The bare breasted pics will be shown to people who pay a donation of $50.00 or more!<br /><br />There is even a High Rollers Club for those who donate more than $50.00. They get access to all the pics from 2003, 2004, and 2005!<br /><br />Come one people, submit your photos to help the cause or donate money to the cause.<br /><br />Pass the word around about the Boobie-Thon! <p></p></b></span><span style="color:#ce436e;"><b><p>You can also Help Fund A Mammogram -->> <a href="http://www.thebreastcancersite.com/cgi-bin/WebObjects/CTDSites">Fund A Mammogram</a> or click on the banner on that site to help the cause for Free.<br /><br />Women remember to check yourselves often for lumps. Know what you feel like so you know what is not normal for you.<br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.boobiethon.com/"><img style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/320/240x60boobiethon1.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />May Love Find Your Heart -<br />Countess</b></span></p><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1127864004387351852005-09-27T18:32:00.000-05:002005-09-27T18:40:49.193-05:00Orgasms are a Turn-OFF for Women<span style="color:#ce436e;"><strong></strong><br /><strong>25 June 2005<br /><a href="http://www.newscientist.com">NewScientist.com</a> news service<br />Michael Le Page</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong>FOR women, it seems, sex is a big turn-off. A scanning study has revealed that many areas of the brain switch off during orgasm - including those involved in emotion.<br /><br />"At the moment of orgasm, women do not have any emotional feelings," says Gert Holstege of the University of Groningen in the Netherlands. His team recruited 13 healthy heterosexual women and their partners. The women were asked to lie with their heads in a PET scanner while the team compared their brain activity in four states: resting, faking an orgasm, having their clitoris stimulated by their partner, and clitoral stimulation to the point of orgasm.<br /><br />As the women were stimulated, activity rose in one sensory part of the brain but fell in the amygdala and hippocampus, areas involved in alertness and anxiety. During orgasm, activity decreased in many more areas of the brain, Holstege told a meeting of the European Society for Human Reproduction and Embryology in Copenhagen this week. Only one part of the brain, in the cerebellum, was more active in women during orgasm. The cerebellum is generally associated with coordinating movement.<br /><br />The findings appear to confirm what we already know: that women cannot enjoy sex unless they are relaxed and free from worries and distractions. Looked at from an evolutionary point of view, it could be that the brain switches off the emotions during sex because at such times reproduction and survival of the species become more important than survival of the individual.<br /><br />The team has already done a similar study with 11 men, which revealed far less deactivation during orgasm than in women. However, Holstege says the results are probably unreliable because PET scanners measure activity over 2 minutes - and in men it's all over in a few seconds.<br /><br />From issue 2505 of New Scientist magazine, 25 June 2005, page 14 </strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong>~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong>May Love Find Your Heart -</strong><br /><strong>Countess</strong></span><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1127617416129784282005-09-24T22:03:00.000-05:002005-09-24T22:12:31.346-05:00Tears Of Crimson Blood<BR><a href="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/1600/crimsinblood1.jpg"><img style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/320/crimsinblood1.jpg" border="0" /></a><font- style="font-size:100%;"><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">My Heart cries hot tears of crimson blood,<br /><br />My Soul aches at being torn from it's twin,<br /><br />My Mind screams with rage & confutsion,<br /><br />My body has lost it's longing & desire it once felt,<br /><br />I'm in the eye of a tornado & if I move one way or the other I will surly die,<br /><br />There is nothing to do except wait out the storm & hope I survive.<br /><br />Copyright ©2005 Countess Demetria</span></strong></span><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1126701275443377152005-09-14T07:34:00.000-05:002005-09-20T23:56:07.953-05:00What is Love?<span style="color:#ce436e;"><b>1 Corinthians 13:4-8a<br /><br />4. Love is patient, love is kind, It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud,<br />5. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.<br />6. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth,<br />7. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.<br />8a. Love never fails.<br /><br />From the NIV Bible<br /><br />May Love Find Your Heart -<br />Countess</b></span><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1126627328951078342005-09-13T11:08:00.000-05:002005-09-13T13:10:56.636-05:00The Heart vs. Logic in Love<span style="color:#ce436e;"><b><br />I really like today's <span style="color:#993399;">Love Quote of the Day</span><br /><br />"Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence."<br /><span style="color:#993399;">H. L. Mencken</span><br /></b></span><br /><span style="color:#ce436e;"><b>I have a GREAT imagination and he has GREAT intelligence.<br />So does that mean I will triumph after all? lol<br /><br /></b></span><span style="color:#ce436e;"><b></b></span><span style="color:#ce436e;"><b>I know not all women have good imaginations like I do, nor are all men intelligent like my Best Friend. lol So I am going to use the word Heart (or love) in place of imagination and Logic in place of intelligence.</b></span> <span style="color:#ce436e;"><b><br /><br />Or maybe it means that a person's own imagination triumphs over their own intelligence in order for them to feel love for someone else.<br /><br />Hmmmm? If it is a man, that isn't very likely to happen.<br />Their logic will override whatever little bit their heart might feel. In other words, a man will suppress any emotions they have, before they get a chance to grow.<br /><br />Damn, why can't men sometimes think with their hearts instead of their brain! (Some men don't even have a brain) They think only with their other head, the one with NO brain at all! Emotionless Vulcan's!! Except for anger that is. Men are good at expressing anger. The ONLY emotion they allow themselves to feel!<br /><br />Ok I am not being fair here. I know that some men are not anger ridden, brainless selfish bastards. Some men are not too afraid of themselves and how the world sees them to actually be sensitive!<br /><br />I know a few men who are actually thoughtful, caring and sensitive. Unfortunately most men are not.<br /><br />Women think with their hearts first, and then will think with their mind. This does get a lot of women into trouble. They fall in love without even thinking about what they are doing. Sometimes they don't even realize that is what is happening.<br /><br />Women open their hearts and give their whole heart, and fall in love before the man even is aware she has done so. The woman gives all of herself and more. She risks her heart, and falls in love with a man, even if he doesn't return those same feelings.<br /><br />The man is taken back, because to him it is too soon. He doesn't feel she should love him that quickly. For a man usually, love takes time to grow. He thinks about it logically and will only open a little bit of his heart at a time. He uses logic to protect himself from being hurt. If he doesn't give his heart or only a little bit, then if something goes wrong he will not be as hurt. What the man doesn't realize is that in order for him to find love, he has to risk his heart also and open up to the woman. He can be loved by the woman, but for him to love her in return he has to risk his heart. He can be as logical as he wants, but when it comes to love, logic plays no part in it. Love is NOT logical. Love just Is.<br /><br />"Love will not find you,<br />If you risk not your heart"<br /><span style="color:#993399;">Erin O'Malley</span><br /><br />Women also who have risked their heart too many times, will hold back and not risk their heart again so easily. Some women have had a hard live growing up, and never learned to trust. Therefore they will not risk their heart. They will have a hard time trusting anyone, especially a man if it was a man in her childhood that hurt her. Unfortunately some women as they become teens, and then adults, become real Bitches! They care about nobody, not even themselves. They are miserable and make others feel the same way they do. There are a lot of men like this too.<br /><br />It is even harder for a man that has been hurt many times. They are programmed by society from childhood to not cry, to not show emotion, to be strong, and tough. Never expose how the truly feel about things. It is horrible that society does this to young boys and men! Parents of the young boys are no better than society. Fathers tell their sons to be tough, not to cry, and be a man. They are only kids, and are very sensitive still, and yet are taught to suppress those emotions and not talk to anyone about them.<br /><br />By the time the boys become young men are interested in women, they don't know how to communicate well with women or other men. They surly don't show their true feelings to women. That would be Un-manly! Give me a break! Sheesh! I hate it when a man feels he has to be MANLY to be liked. To me that means, being cold, emotionless except for anger, and selfish. Unwilling to talk things out, they will make the decisions and not consider the woman's feelings about anything. They act all tough and controling. They don't show any tenderness or caring about the woman in their life, especially in public. They see tenderness, kindness, and being loving to women as being weak. They might be somewhat loving in the privacy of their own home, and even there behind closed doors.<br /><br />Men mostly think logically. They don't see that a lot of times their logical ways of doing things, just hurts the woman. He doesn't try to see things from her point of view. He just decides what is to be and that is it. Again not all men are like this, but so many are that it's a wonder women put up with them at all!<br /><br />That is when Love comes into it. A woman who loves a man even when he acts like a total jerk, and does not respect her at all, will put up with it. Not all women, but those who love unconditionally do. That unconditional love that some women have, gets them into trouble that they can't get out of.<br /><br />Many women do not realize how much they are falling in love, and that it is unconditional love, until it is too late. Most men don't deserve that kind of unconditional love. Women like this get into abusive relationships and even marry them because they love the man so unconditionally. They love the man more than themselves, and will even tell themselves that they deserve the beatings that they get. A woman who loves unconditionally is very easy to be taken advantage of, because she will not give up on him, no matter how much he hurts her. This kind of man will only be logical, or maybe a bit crazy too. He will never open his heart up to her, no matter how unconditionally the woman loves him. Logic plays no part in love, and he can not let go of logic long enough to allow his heart to be vulnerable enough to feel love.<br /><br />Unconditional love is a blessing, and it can be a curse also. Mothers who love their kids so unconditionally that they are blinded by any wrong their kids to, ends up hurting them in the long run. They give the signal that it is ok to be bad, when the Mother never punishes them for things they do wrong, because they don't think the can do anything wrong.<br /><br />If their kids get into trouble, they try and make excuses for their kids instead of teaching their kids not to do it again! Even Unconditional love needs some conditions. Otherwise the abused wife will never get out of that situation, and the Mother who loves her kids so unconditionally that she will never set ground rules, or consequences for their actions.<br /><br />The heart needs to have some balance with the mind. I know I said there is no logic in love, and there isn't. There can be love, and logic balanced in the same person. If it is balanced then the logic will not override the heart, and the person will still be able to love. Then when logic is needed, it can put the heart in check so the heart doesn't go too far to fast. Unfortunately with men, if they try this it ends up putting a choke hold on the heart. Then the heart is suppressed and can not feel. This is when logic goes too far and is not balanced with the heart. You need both love and logic separately and independent of each other in the same person.<br /><br />You can have one and not the other, but it just ends up to be hard to live with a person who is purely logical with no love. Imagine trying to live with a pure Vulcan for the rest of your life! Some of these people become obsessive compulsive. They have to have logic applied to every single thing they do. Order becomes an obsession. They can not communicate well with others, they are selfish, and care not for what other people feel by what they say. If they hurt others it doesn't bother them. Logic without opening your heart to love, only causes grief to yourself and others. A purely logical person will not think that fun is logical. They are not very pleasant people to be around. They have lost their childlike heart, they no longer have the little boy or little girl inside them that gives them a spark of life. This is also the kind of person who can turn into a criminal much easier. They do not care what people they hurt to get what they want. They have no heart, so therefor nothing to tell them that what they are doing is wrong. The heart is part of what your conscience comes from. A person who does not ever open their heart to love, and is just logical, does not feel bad when the do something wrong. Those are just some examples of what it would be like to not live with an open heart, and only be logical. We are not Vulcan's, we are human, therefore we are not capable of being purely logical without a heart or emotion, and have no consequences. You lose a part of your humanity without allowing part of your heart to open to love.<br /><br />A person who is purely ruled by their heart and has no logic at all, ends up making a lot of mistakes because they don't ever think things through. These people are impulsive, and driven only by their wants and desires. They are probably not good at managing money, because they want to spend it to by whatever their heart desires. They don't plan, so they are probably usually late to everything. A person that is thinks with only their heart will fall in love easily, but maybe with the wrong person. They do not think about if that person is right for them or not. They do not look past the surface of the person they are attracted to. They only go on their feelings, not any logic that might have told them that this man is abusive, or this woman just wants your money. These people get hurt easily because they do not think about what they are doing before getting involved with someone. If they had logic as well as love, they would have taken a step back and looked good at the person they were attracted to first. Instead by the time they realize that they have made a mistake in who they are with, they are so deeply in love that they don't want to let go even if it hurts them even more.<br />When logic is not part of a person who lives by their heart, it will cause them a lot of problems in life. As you can see by the examples I have given here.<br /><br />People need both an open heart to find love, and love balanced to lead a good productive and happy life. This does not guarantee that it will be a happily ever after kind of life, but it will give the person more of a chance of finding happiness in life. Those without heart and those without logic will ultimately, be very unhappy in the end.<br /><br />May Love Find Your Heart -<br />Countess </b></span><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1126308004427071952005-09-09T18:12:00.000-05:002005-09-09T18:23:54.190-05:00What Is Your Fantasy?<span style="color:#ce436e;"><b><br />Do you have a Fantasy that you would like to come true some day?<br /><br />Do you fantasize about something that is totally out of this world and could never happen, but it turns you on, or is just pleasant to fantasize about?<br /><br />Or do you daydream about something or someone often?<br /><br />Tell us your fantasy! If you have several fantasies then post them in seperate comments.<br />Or e-mail them all to me and separeate them with a line so I know it isn't just one fantasy.<br /><br />This is just one of mine.<br /><br />~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<br />My Fantasy<br /><br />I would like to ride a horse and a man at the same time someday! lol<br />NO NO NO I am NOT into bestiality!! Not THIS Countess!<br />I mean me riding the man while sitting on the back of a horse that is walking of course!<br />Maybe at night under a full moon, with just a blanket on the horse, and us butt naked! Of course this would have to be with a man I loved, if it was to actually happen someday.<br />Ok, that is just a fantasy! I doubt it will ever happen, But it would be so FUN if it did!! lol<br /><br />~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<br /><br />Ok, Everyone it is your turn now! Don't leave me hangin' as the only one to post my fantasy!!<br /><br />If you would like to tell your fantasy and be graphic about it (you don't have to be graphic if you don't want to) then e-mail me at <a title="mailto:countessofhorror@hotmail.com" href="mailto:countessofhorror@hotmail.com" target="_blank">countessofhorror@hotmail.com</a> with your fantasy.<br />Put in the subject "What Is Your Fantasy?" That way I know what your e-mail is about, and will not delete it without reading it if I don't already have your e-mail address in my address book.<br /><br />I will add your fantasy to the comments section in this post! If you want to use a pseudo name so others don't know who you are, just tell me what name you want me to add at the bottom of the fantasy in your e-mail.<br /><br />If you have a Blogger account and don't mind if others know who you are, then you can post your fantasy in my blog comments yourself!<br /><br />May Love Find Your Heart -<br />Countess</b></span><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1126238199234396822005-09-08T22:56:00.000-05:002005-09-08T23:02:58.180-05:00Are You A Hopeless Romantic?<BR><BR><span style="color:#ce436e;"><b>Do you do special things for the special man/woman?<br />Do you make him/her feel special?<br />Do you love to do little things to make him/her smile?<br />Do you want to spend the rest of your life with your one true love?<br /><br />Then take this quiz and see if you are a Hopeless Romantic!<br /><br />My Resultes are below.<br /><br /><a href="http://quizilla.com/users/LadyPaje/quizzes/Are%20you%20a%20Hopeless%20Romantic?" target="_blank"><img alt="you are a true romantic" src="http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v733/CountessDemetria/Misc/quiztrueromance.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br />Click on the image above to take the quiz.<br /><br /><a href="http://byladypaje.bravepages.com/" target="_blank">Quiz By Lady Paje</a><br /><br /><br />May Love Find Your Heart -<br />Countess</b></span><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1124451045711167682005-08-19T06:47:00.000-05:002005-09-05T19:10:29.633-05:00Love in Friendship<br><a href="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/1600/rrse11.jpg"><img style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/320/rrse11.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><p><span style="font-size:100%;"><font color="#ce436e"><b>Is there room for Love in friendship? Will the friendship change when Love is part of it? </p></span><p>Where do the lines of friendship end and the lines of a relationship begin when Love is part of it?</p><p>How is one to know if the Love is just the Love for your Best friend, or the Love between man and woman?</p><p>Is it possible to Love someone you have never met in person? Can Love exist without physical chemistry?</p><p>Why can't I be content to just be friends? My heart wants so much more. My heart wants to feel the same things returned that I feel. </p><p>I am so grateful for my Best friend. He has been there for me when I needed him. I want to always stay friends with him. </p><p>I am trying to just be a friend to him, but it is very hard. My heart wants to give so much more.</p><p>My heart wants to recive just as much in return, and that is what makes me hurt so much right now.</p><p>I want him to feel the same way about me as I do him. I know it isn't fair of me to want that. </p><p>I wish I could just be happy being friends with him, and not want more. I want to be more than a friend to him. </p><p>He has been my Dear friend for 9 months now. The last 4 months I had thought that his feelings for me were more than they actually are. </p><p>Now I feel a loss. Its as if I actually lost that part of his heart, that I thought he had given. </p><p>I know it isn't a real loss, since he hadn't given that part of his heart to begin with. I only had thought he had.</p><p>It doesn't matter if it is a real loss or not. It still feels like it is since in my mind and my heart I had thought he had given part of his heart to me. </p><p>Does a couple have to actually meet face to face before they know if Love is really there? Is it not possible to love without being physical?</p><p>My heart is so confused. I used to look at his picture and I would smile. Just the thought of him would make me happy. Now each time I look at his picture I feel a physical pain in my heart!</p><p>What is that? Why do I feel this way? I want to look at him without hurting! He means so much to me! why does it hurt to look at him? It doesn't make sense to me!</p><p>I also have two other male friends who are very dear to me. They are both very good friends and I also love them. My love for them is strictly the love of friendship. I am very grateful for them both! I never want to lose their friendship.</p><p>I am listening to White Snake - "Here I go Again". I feel as if my heart is now alone again. If I hadn't thought that I had part of his heart, this wouldn't hurt like this. </p><p>I've known that he didn't feel as much towards me as I do towards him. I thought that there was something more than friendship then. I was hoping that whatever amount he felt for me would grow in time. </p><p>Friendship is all he wants until we are able to meet. In my mind now, I don't see that happening at for a few more years. </p><p>What is the definition of an Online Relationship? Does it mean that it is only a friendship until you meet in person? Or can two people have a real Relationship online before they meet?</p><p>Is there some precedent for these type of things? I know I can't be the only one feeling like this! I know that there are lots of people out there that have met online. So why do I FEEL alone in this?</p><p>Here is a poem that I wrote back in April 2005. It shows kind of how I feel now. click on the link.<br /><a href="http://countessdemetria.blogspot.com/2005/04/bleeding-heart_24.html">Bleeding Heart</a></p><span style="font-size:100%;"><p>May Love Find Your Heart -<br />Countess</b></font></span></p><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1124535215673416762005-08-20T06:00:00.000-05:002005-09-05T19:07:04.073-05:00Wanting To Be Wanted<BR><a href="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/1600/JohnAryn2.jpg"><img style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/320/JohnAryn2.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><font color="#ce436e"><b><br /><p>What does it mean when we want be wanted? </p><p>Is it it the same as needing to be needed? </p><p>Or is it longing to be loved?</p><p>Why do us humans (especially women) need to be wanted, cherished, and loved? </p><p>What is in us that drives us to madness when we do not get what we want or feel we need emotinaly, or physicaly?</p><p>That need does not go away no matter how hard we try to ignore it. </p><p>We can suppress our emotions so we don't feel the need so much, but in the end only hurt ourselves by doing so.</p><p>There is something about the attention a man gives a woman, that is different than any other kind of attention she might get from others.</p><p>He can so easliy make her feel so special by the things he says. He can make her heart beat faster just by hearing his voice, or reading his words in a message or e-mail. </p><p>He can make her feel as light as air just to let her know he wants to kiss her, or carass her face.<br />No matter if it is a virtual kiss or not, the woman feels wanted, and cherished.</p><p>Do men want to be wanted as well? </p><p>Do men ever want that emotional connection that only comes from the heart?</p><p>Do men feel more than lust when it comes to making a woman feel wanted?<br />Can he feel more? </p><p>When there hasn't been a physical meeting yet, for a woman the emotional connection to the man she cares about, during cybersex is the closest she will feel to him until they can be together in perosn. This only happens for a women when she is already deeply connected to the man she cares about. </p><p>It doesn't matter if he feels as strongly towards her as she does towards him. During that time their feelings and emotions are equal. They feel a connection that they don't get at any other time. That place that wants to be cherished, loved, and wanted is filled. It is a give and take of equal purportions in emotions, lust, and physical satisfaction for them both.</p><p>I wish I knew if there was another way to feed that need to be wanted. So far I haven't figured that one out yet. I don't no if there really is another way, online to fill that emotinal void, with the semblance of love.</p><p>If anyone knows of another way, please e-mail me using the e-mail address in my profile! Or leave a comment here or in the neoboard.</p><p>I need that void filled even if it is only the semblance of love. It is the closest I have until the the time comes we can meet in person, and findout if it can be real.</p><p><br />Here is a Poem I wrote last year that fits today's blog post. Click on the link below or on the title of todays blog post.<br /><a href="http://countessdemetria.blogspot.com/2005/04/desires-in-loneliness.html">Desires In Loneliness</a><br /> </p><p>May Love Find Your Heart -<br />Countess</p></b></font><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1124628214426774482005-08-21T07:45:00.000-05:002005-09-05T19:01:10.703-05:00Female Masturbation<p><font color="#ce436e"><b>For me the word masturbation was thought of as a dirty word. Something that if you did it, you better not anyone know about it. That is how I was brought up, and even as an adult felt guilty for even trying. I am not an expert at masturbation, but I have learned a few things as I practiced and experimented, that I wanted to share with others.<br /><br />I had tried a few times in the past couple years to masturbate, but it never worked for me. I didn't feel any pleasure in it. I didn't know then actually HOW to masturbate correctly so that I could make myself cum.<br /><br />I am wondering if this is a problem for a lot of women? Do lots of women not masturbate because they don't know how? Or that they feel guilty for wanting to? That used to be me earlier this year. I could get aroused, but when I was by myself I just couldn't make myself cum. I could make myself feel good, but as far as having an orgasm, it just didn't work for me.<br /><br />I didn't understand what I was doing wrong. I thought that it just took me too long, and my hands would get tired before anything happened. So I would just stop, being unfulfilled. It was much different when I had cybersex. I got great stimulation from the words in the IM window. Somehow that stimulation helped me more than I could by myself to cum.<br /><br />It has taken me many months of practicing and experimenting on my own to now be able to make myself cum almost every time now. When I am VERY aroused sometimes I can have an orgasm within a minute or two of masturbation! With practice every woman should be able to learn to make herself cum with the right stimulation, and knowledge of what your most sensitive places are on your own body.<br /><br />Sometimes I use a visual stimulation, like a picture. Sometimes putting on a song that gets me excited also helps a lot. So then I have visual, audio, and physical stimulation all at once. Actually even smell also stimulates as well. I don't know if other woman are the same way, but when I get aroused I can smell it. This happens most times before I even start to touch myself. Once I get the visual, and audio stimulation, soon after I get wet. Sometimes it happens immediately.<br /><br />Another kind of stimulation that I am not sure works for many, but it sure does for me, is imagination. If you have no pictures, or music that excites you, try fantasizing. If you have no real fantasies in your mind that you would like to happen some day, then try making something up in your head. Movie stars are good ones to use since most people have their favorites and have at least one that they think are HOT! Think of that man that you think is hot, and you being on a beach having hot sex. Or skinny dipping, taking a shower together, or him being in bed with you licking you and being the one stimulating your clitoris, massaging your breasts, etc.. Let your imagination go wild, and let things happen in your mind that you might be too afraid to try in any other place. Your fantasies are your own. </b></p><p><b>By the way, just writting this article has made me wet! So maybe you can also try writing something erotic, sexual in nature, or reading something erotic if you don't write.<br /><br />Once you are wet, get in a quiet place, like your bed where you feel comfortable during masturbation. This wetness is the beginning of arousal. I don't seem to have much of a problem getting aroused. This wetness is important so you don't make yourself raw trying to make yourself cum. Rubbing this wetness on yourself can also enhance your pleasure.<br /><br />Once you are wet dip your fingers into your vagina and rub your wetness on your clitoris. The clitoris is very sensitive for women and you can make yourself have great orgasms by clitoris stimulation. Spreading your legs as wide as you can augments pleasure, as well as using one hand to spread the lips of your vagina apart and pulling the clitoris hood back some. If you are too sensitive to direct clitoris stimulation, then try rubbing around it, on the clitoris hood as well as below and beside the clitoris. I think the easiest way to get to orgasm quickly is to stimulate the exposed clitoris. At this point it should be erect and easy to feel and manipulate. I am not sure if every woman's clitoris becomes erect or not, but mine does.<br /><br />Try using one finger and rub your clitoris starting from the tip of your finger down close to the back of your finger. Depending on the position of a man, his body might make the same movement against your clitoris during sex. Add some pressure with your finger, not too much but some pressure will simulate what your clitoris feels when the mans body is rubbing against it. Keep up this movement, every now and then dipping into your vagina to rub more of your wetness on your clitoris, and continue. Keep doing this and you will start feeling almost an itching feeling in your clitoris. This means it is working! Keep on and don't stop now! That itching feeling will soon change and you will start to orgasm. If you live alone, or are alone in the house at the time, let yourself go and moan and scream as loud as you want or need to.<br /><br />Not every orgasm will last the same amount of time, nor be the same intensity. There are times when all you will feel are one or two short spasms and that is it. It might be the short orgasms at first when you are learning, but as you practice and get more comfortable with yourself you should start to get harder and longer orgasms as you masturbate.<br /><br />You can also use a detachable shower head, or running bath water to stimulate your clitoris. Or you can do as I learned to do even as a child of 7 ( I didn't know what a clitoris was then). Find the strongest stream of water from your normal shower head. Move the shower head around so you can position yourself right under the strongest stream of water. Have the stream hit your clitoris at the most sensitive place for you. Use your hands as well and you should have a great orgasm. Using the water also takes practice to find where it feels the best for you. It can be frustrating though if you haven't cum and the water gets cold!<br /><br />Take your shower and get clean first, or you might run out of warm water before you are done and then not want to take a cold shower to get clean. lol This will apply' mostly to places that have a limited supply of hot water available. Or someone else in the house flushes a toilet, or runs the washing machine, or dishwasher! lol It can get cold quick, so if you do it, make sure to have the hot water tank full when you start your shower.<br /><br />Unfortunately though, this is also a big waste of water, especially for those in an area that is going through a dry spell or drought. So if you are able to make yourself cum any other way than the running water, it would be best to do that instead.<br /><br />If there are any men out there that read this and would like to submit an article they write about ( male masturbation ), please e-mail it to me using the e-mail address in my profile. I will give you full credit. I think it would only be right to have that article be written by a man!<br />Women if you have any more information or things to add to what I have said please leave a comment here, or if you don't have a blogger account, e-mail your comment to me, and I will post it for you. Thank You!!</p><p>I have an external link to a forum post at <a href="http://www.sex-project.com/1/index.php">The Sex Project</a> on the title of this blog post. Just click on the title and it will take you to that article about Female Masturbation. It was written by a man from a women's point of view. I have linked that site here so you can go look and read the other articles if you are wanting to learn more about sex and your own body. There are many great informative articles there.</p><p>May Love Find Your Heart -<br />Countess</b></font></p><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1125198586644289182005-08-27T22:09:00.000-05:002005-09-05T18:53:37.490-05:00What Kind Of Kiss Are You?<BR><BR><div align="center"></div><div align="center"></div><p></p><p><a href="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/1600/EntrancingKiss1.jpg"><img style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/320/EntrancingKiss1.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /></p><p></p><div align="center"></div><p><strong><span style="color:#ce436e;">You have an entrancing kiss ~<br />the kind that leaves your partner bedazzled and maybe even feeling he is dreaming. Quite effective; the kiss that never lessens and always blows your partner away like the first time.</span></strong><br /><br /><a href="http://quizilla.com/users/ghettokitty/quizzes/What%20kind%20of%20kiss%20are%20you?"><span style="color:#993399;">What Kind Of Kiss Are You?</span></a><span style="color:#ce436e;"><strong> <<<---Click here to take the quiz. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#ce436e;"><strong><br />Brought to you by:</strong></span> <a href="http://quizilla.com"><span style="color:#993399;">Quizilla.com</span></a><br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#ce436e;">The above results are mine from when I took the quiz. Leave a comment here or in my neoBoard, </span></strong><strong><span style="color:#ce436e;">to let me know <span style="font-size:130%;">what kind of Kiss you are!! </span></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#ce436e;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#ce436e;">May Love Find Your Heart -<br />Countess</span></strong> </p><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1125305562908811732005-08-29T02:45:00.000-05:002005-09-05T18:49:13.236-05:00Getting What You Need From Your Partner?<a href="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/1600/LoversHeart1.gif"><img style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/5392/613/320/LoversHeart1.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><font color="#ce436e"><br /><b>Sometimes I like to be on top and be the one in control. However, in that position I do not have orgasms.<br /><br />Does anyone know if this is normal for women not to have an orgasm when on top? Is there a way for a woman to be on top and still have orgasms? It is fun, but I don't get any sexual fulfillment from it. I want to make as much effort in bed as I can, but also want to get something out of it too.<br /><br />I think that it is totally UN-fair to the man when a woman just lays there, or doesn't put much or any effort into having sex, or making love. (yes they are different things)<br /><br />I also feel that it isn't fair when a man does all the foreplay and the woman doesn't do anything for him! Too many women act as if they don't like or are afraid of their mans penis. That is just wrong, and I feel bad for the men who have women like that.<br /><br />I admit that I used to be ignorant as well, and because I was never shown what to do, but expected to know what to do, and hadn't read about what to do, I too was intimidated. For me when I didn't have an emotional connection to the man, I didn't even try because I didn't know how. If I didn't love him, I also didn't have a desire to want to learn what I needed to so I could please the man I am with. Now that I know what to do because I took it upon myself to learn, I want to please him.<br /><br />Women, if you are just intimidated by not knowing what you are to do, then read about what you can do for your man, in the site I have listed below "The Sex Project". Some of you women are just plain selfish! If you love him, then you should love ALL of him! After you learn what to do, also ask him what he likes. Ask him what feels good to him. Let him know it is your first time trying this, so he doesn't expect you to know what to do. Tell him you want to please him but need his help to do what he likes.<br /><br />Hopefully he will be patient with you as you learn. It is something that you will have to practice together until you become comfortable with him, and can do it without being shy about it. Learn all you can from him. Don't be shy to ask him questions before hand, or after to get his opinion on how you could make things better. I hope he will not be critical of you as you learn and practice. As long as you show him that you are really trying and want to please him, I think everything will be ok.<br /><br />Men, this is something else to consider. Not all women will desire to please you, if there is no emotional attachment to you for her. Establish that bond between you before you ask her to give you a blow job. Her attitude towards doing so should be much better with her loving you, than if she was just attracted to you. I know there are women out there that love to give blow jobs to any man they are with. That is great for those men who find them, but for those who have a woman they want to or are having sex with, this advice is for you.<br /><br />If your girlfriend or wife isn't making much of an effort in bed, then tell her what you would like from her. She will not know that you want things to be any different unless you tell her. Communicate with her just what you want her to do. Be nice of course and don't just tell her to do it. Ask her if she would. It is possible that your woman might not have ever thought of being on top since you might SEEM content with her on bottom, or in other positions.<br /><br />Women, even when on bottom us women can help. Move your hips in time with your man. Don't just lay their like a dead fish. The more you make an effort in bed, the more you will make your man feel like you really want him and can't get enough of him.<br /><br />Something else I would like to suggest to both men and women. This doesn't work with everyone, because not everyone knows how to communicate well or is willing to listen.<br /><br />Talk about what you both want in bed ahead of time, before you start getting horny or have sex on your mind at all.Have a discussion about what you like in bed, what kinds of positions you would like to try. Talk about what you would like from each other. Ask each other questions about the way things are going in bed so far. How do they like it. Do you want more or less foreplay, etc... Tell each other what turns you on in bed about your partner.<br /><br />If there have been any bad experiences with either one of you in the past, tell your partner about it! It would be bad for your relationship and sex life if one of you did something and it reminded your partner of a bad experience in the past.<br /><br />Before trying anything new, always talk about it. For example; don't just try anal on a girl or woman because you like it! Ask first! Don't push it if she doesn't want to.<br /><br />If you both are inexperienced, then make it a fun thing to learn together. Get some books from the library or look at sites online. Learn all you can about different positions, and how you can please each other.<br /><br />This site <a href="http://www.sex-project.com/1/index.php">The Sex Project</a> has a lot of wonderful information to help you. Share it with your partner, to get answers to questions you might have it would be good for both of you to become members. Bring them over to the PC and read things together. Discuss what you read, and find out what you each like.<br /><br />This way when you know what you both want, through COMMUNICATION and cooperation, you can both give an equal amount of effort in bed. You both will be much more satisfied with your sex partner than you were before.<br /><br />If one of you is more experienced than the other, make a game of it. See who can find the most information than the other. Who can find the most interesting postilions, and places where people have had sex, etc... That way the less experienced person does not feel like he or she is ignorant, but it is a game, so becomes fun. Then try out what you learn!<br /><br />Have Fun Everyone!!<br /><br />((HUGS)) To all the men and women who have a partner that does not put much if any effort into sex or making love. I hope this helps you.<br /><br />May Love Find Your Heart -<br />Countess</b></font><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. SUBMIT A RELATED ARTICLE, POEM, ARTICLE IDEAS, OR A RELATED WEB LINK.</div>Countess Demetriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082325615104137495noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15576711.post-1125733978356072352005-09-03T02:52:00.000-05:002005-09-05T18:40:50.596-05:00God Why Must I Be Teased?<span style="color:#ce436e;"><br /><b>Why must my body react so strongly to the mere thought of him?<br /><br />My body craves his kiss, & touch so much that I can almost feel him just by thinking of him.<br /><br />I long for him and yet he is not here. My body teases me with sensations I never felt before I met him.<br /><br />I give in to the pleasure my body wants, and scream from the wonderful sensations my body has.<br /><br />I am left wanting more. I just want him more than ever and yet don't want to quit feeling feeling the pleasure.<br /><br />My body teases me to the point of no return, wanting him more than ever, and knowing it may never be.<br /><br />Why can't I just be content with the communication we have now?<br /><br />I feel as if my body betrays me, making me crave what I may never have.Never have I felt for someone the way I do for him.<br /><br />He brings out the fire within me that wants to devour me from the inside out if it doesn't get the fuel it needs.<br /><br />My wants and needs are overpowering me day and night.I wake up from a dream feeling the pleasure of him, only to find he is not there.<br /><br />I don't want to stop feeling the pleasure I get from wanting him so much.It is just hard to believe my body will ever feel what it craves so much.<br /><br />God there are too many obstacles in our way that block our every attempt at finding a way to be together.<br /><br />My feelings for him are too strong for me to try and subdue. They overpower my every waking and dreaming thought.<br /><br />Sometimes I just want to give up, for it is too hard to go on alone.<br /><br />Alone is the way I feel I will always be.<br /><br />Is he as good as I perceive him to be?<br /><br />Sometimes he seems too good to be true.<br /><br />I sure don't deserve a man like him.<br /><br />God am I just kidding myself in believing that he cares for me even a little?<br /><br />I don't understand why anyone, let alone someone as wonderful as him, would care for me.<br /><br />Why? Why me? I am nothing special. Why am I so confused?<br /><br />I want to believe that someday will finally come, but how far into the future is someday?<br /><br />Someday seems so very far away. Someday we will meet. Someday we will see if we are meant for each other. Someday we will finally know what the truth is. Will someday ever be today?<br /><br />I feel as if someday is just another word for never.<br /><br />Why must I be torn to pieces with confusion, doubts, and uncertainties for days at a time?<br /><br />Then a few days later I am hopeful, happy and joyful.<br /><br />My mind and body are playing tug of war with my heart!<br /><br />My body teases me, and my mind confuses me.<br /><br />My body desires him and my heart wants him to love me.<br /><br />My mind doesn't believe I will get either.<br /><br />My soul reaches out for his, wanting to intertwine my soul with his.<br /><br />Will that day ever come? Will my dreams only be just that, a dream?<br /><br />I want to hope, but every time I start to, something brings me back to reality.<br /><br />Hope hurts. It makes me think that what will probably not ever be, might be possible.<br /><br />Then I see all the obstacles in our way, with no way to remove them!<br /><br />Hope is then dashed on the rocks at the bottom of the cliff.<br /><br />I even begin to doubt if I am the only one in his life. I don't truly believe there is,but my mind keeps trying to make me think about that possibility.<br /><br />Hope teases me, my body teases me, my mind confuses me until I don't know what to believe anymore.<br /><br />My body and heart want to believe the dream, while my mind keeps seeing things about us that might not even be there.<br /><br />My mind reads more into things than my heart wants it to.<br /><br />It is very hard having our feelings and desires so unequal.<br /><br />I know he can't feel, give or show anymore until we meet in person, but knowing that doesn't make it any easier to deal with.<br /><br />I don't see how he can go from feeling the little he does now, to loving me in person. If he doesn't feel it now, how will being in person change a thing? There might be chemistry, but I don't want that without love as a part of it.<br /><br />I would just end up being hurt if love was not part of the physical intimacy.<br /><br />It is just wishful thinking that it will even get that far. I see no way of anything changing that would break down the barriers before us.<br /><br />If his feelings for me haven't grown in all this time, then meeting will not change a thing. Why should I even go on?<br /><br />He gets to feel that he is wanted, cared for, and loved. Sometimes that doesn't feel fair.<br /><br />I know he cares about me, but so do my friends! How is the way he cares much different from the way they care about me?<br /><br />We talk about the same kinds of things. Some of my friends even tell me that they love me often. That he definitely doesn't do.<br /><br />They say only time will tell. Well **** time! Time drags on and on and nothing changes!!<br /><br />Why must what I feel, seem like it isn't worth anything! I wish I could just quit feeling the way I feel! It would make things so much simpler.<br /><br />Then I wouldn't care if even part of my feelings are returned.<br /><br />If I drank alcohol, I would drink until I didn't feel anymore.<br /><br />Alas, I don't drink, do drugs, or smoke cigarettes. I don't do anything that would numb me.<br /><br />God why must everyone be against us? Why can't we just have a chance to meet?<br /><br />God is that so much to ask? You say you will give us our hearts desires. Why make things so difficult? We have so much in common, and are so compatible, please give us a chance to meet!<br /><br />This emotional roller coaster that I keep going on over and over and over, is wearing me out!<br /><br />God please give me Hope that things will work out the way we want them to, Peace in my soul instead of constantly warring with myself.<br /><br />Help me see if there is a weakness in any of the barriers in our path! Please help me break them down, one by one until there is nothing standing in our way!<br /><br />Protect my heart from being hurt again, yet still be able to love.<br /><br />Give me the strength I need to get through this, without losing hope.<br /><br />Thank You God.<br /><br />May Love Find Your Heart -<br />Countess</b></span><div class="blogger-post-footer">COME ON AND READ ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX, INTIMACY, PASSION, PLEASURE,& MORE. POST A COMMENT & TELL YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECTS. TAKE A POLL. 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